There are many in a relationship that find themselves constantly bombarded by emotions, decisions and confusion that stems from their interactions with their significant other.
I’m going to share with you 5 things that any couple should be looking to strive for to be happier, healthier and have their relationship be more fulfilling. Remember this is all my OPINION.
- Experiences – I feel like when you get too comfortable in a relationship, the first thing to go the way of the dinosaur is those special moments you used to share constantly when the fires of passion were at their peak. Complacency is the enemy. Treat every moment (within reason….relaxing is normal) like it’s something to cherish and get out and make memories.It doesn’t have to be some grandiose spectacle. Rather, you can just think of things your partner likes to do and strive to let them know you care and that you are constantly thinking of how to make them happier. Effort is always appreciated and usually the actions taken by one partner are reciprocated by the other.
- Laughter – When Captain Serious is a staple of your relationship, you know you’re either with the wrong person or in deep trouble. Laughter releases stress and creates endorphins so keep smiling! Ever hear the saying that it takes more effort to frown then smile? Do yourself a favor and stop being such a drag. People are attracted to those that make them feel good.You don’t have to be the next great stand up comedian but you should know what your partner finds humorous and if you don’t or the relationship is still fresh, do some digging and prodding and you can find some material to work with.
- Trust – Jealousy is your single greatest enemy in a relationship. It will douse a hot flame faster than Ranger Joe and Smokey the Bear. You need to have mutual trust between you and your partner if you are ever going to last. It is normal to be jealous at times but you should never act upon it.If your partner isn’t making you feel like you can trust them then maybe you need to move on. Insecurity and paranoia are not only a huge turn off for most people but it is unhealthy behavior that only leads to increased stress and self sabotage. Trust is the foundation of any good relationship.
- Tolerance – Mistakes happen. They ARE normal, contrary to what some would have you believe. I’m amazed at the level of hostility I see in some relationships over the little things. You can’t dwell on petty issues if you ever want to develop the trust I just spoke about. Nobody wants to constantly be walking on egg shells.Also, differences should be embraced. If every couple liked all the same activities and felt the same about every topic then the relationship would get boring really fast. Celebrate the things your partner enjoys even if they aren’t your cup of tea. It shows you are willing to accept and support who they are.
- Independence – This is the single most important factor in my opinion. Most couples lack individuality and do EVERYTHING together and probably spend too much time with each other too soon. A slow and steady, gradual, naturally flowing relationship is one that every couple should strive for. Extreme passion, infatuation and strong attraction sometimes can’t be helped, but for the sake of your self-respect and long-term success with your new partner, play it cool, resist the urge to move too fast and enjoy the little moments that naturally lead into bigger ones. For the right person, it will be worth it.
Hope you enjoyed reading the 5 factors that make up a solid relationship in this humble pup’s opinion. Stay tuned for more lifestyle advice and if you have any bones send em my way.
Woof,
The Little Blog Dog
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